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God’s Creative Provision Through Special Women

April 30, 2012

I wanted to share with you an email I received on Friday, which I believe highlights a part of God’s redemptive work in our story. As a background, long before Sydney’s diagnosis, we really struggled with where to send our kids to elementary school. Sydney and I were both products of public school and I was especially partial to it. However, Sydney fell in love with the idea of Christian school, and especially, Covenant Day School, in Matthews. I eventually relented after hearing such rave reviews from other parents, but it was truly a very close call for us.

However, I now realize that God knew that we would need the extra special care, attention, and prayer that a close-knit Christian school would offer us. I literally can not tell you how many times I have been thankful for this. I have had teachers take the kids to play on a Saturday. I had one teacher say, “Don’t worry about the parent teacher conference, I’ll bring the girls home to your house one day and we can have it there.” The teachers are all willing to do almost anything, and each has loved on my kids in an extra special way. The parents also have provided lunches, rides, uniforms and any number of support items.

This past January, for example, for Haven’s birthday, I went to her class to bring rice crispy treats to help the class celebrate. Typically a parent will come and bring some sweet to celebrate the occasion. Well, come to find out there were already balloons, flowers, cake and other treats which were brought by other teachers and mothers, all worried that I would forget but too kind to ask me to do it. I also learned that several other teachers had come by the class to check on the birthday plans, ready to jump in their car to fill the gap if need be.

Long story short, the teachers and women in our community have been amazing. The following is an example email that demonstrates how invested this school is in my kids and how they coordinate together as the hands and feet of God in our lives. It also gives you a glimpse of where sweet Mary Haven is in her grief these days.


I just want to give you a little heads up that we have seen some, what I think are encouraging, steps in Haven’s grieving process this week. Up to this point, I haven’t seen any emotion when Haven talked about her Mom. She has always just been very matter of fact.  Yesterday morning she was drawing a picture and started to cry. She said she missed her Mom. Mrs. Peterson took her out and loved on her and rocked her and snuggled a few minutes and she came back to the room happy as can be.  I let Mrs. Neal know, just to be on the lookout at C1 and she told me it happened again. Today she was coloring again (she likes to draw you know:)) and came over to me and said, “I miss my Mommy”. I hugged on her and asked to see what she was working on. She is making a book that says Haven and Sydney Gaylord on the front and inside she has written on a few pages, things like “I want my Mommy but she is gone”. I told her that I thought writing about her Mom was a great idea and that I thought she should show you the book and she said she would when she was finished:).  I was so pleased that she is talking about her and showing some feelings, while at the same time hating that she is hurting at all!! I just thought you should know what I am seeing.

I still want to be careful about the Mother’s Day thing and would love your input. I have gone ahead and put it on our schedule to have Mom’s come in and get their Mother’s Day gift on the Friday before Mother’s Day but we can certainly take Haven elsewhere during that time or do something to make it easier for her. Just let me know if you have any thoughts there. I am continuing to pray for you as you move through each new stage of this process for you and your little ones.



As a father, you can’t put a price on this. God is using these women and others to provide for my kids, what their mom is not there to give them. This is also true with our church friends. My mom remarked how, during Sydney’s small birthday get-together, she saw Vail and Haven move around to the laps of four or five different women who each have loved them as if they are their own. I could literally give you a thousand examples of special touches that these folks have given to my kids, and there is not enough time in the world to relay them all to you.

I am so thankful for the help and love of these sweet women on my girls, and continue to be amazed at God’s creative and beautiful provision for our family.

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  1. As you wrote, it is amazing how God uses people to be his hands and feet. What a blessing that a lot of Sydney’s heart and hopes for her children are being carried out through you and her precious friends. Thanks for sharing your heart, too, Todd.

  2. This is beautiful. Such sensitivity. Thank you for sharing.

  3. Barb permalink

    Thanks for sharing these touching moments. You are all so lucky to have all these special people help with the girls. We are always here for you and appreciate your updates in your daily life.
    Blessings and Hugs from NE,

  4. Sadee permalink

    Praying for you guys today!

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